The life you want begins with the relationship you have with yourself.
“People are not broken. They are adapted. Most behaviors make perfect sense once we understand what they were designed to protect.”
- Sierra Magurczek LCSW
——— PATTERNS THAT MIGHT FEEL ALL TOO FAMILIAR
Couples conflict is rarely what it appears to be.
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“Do you see how much I am carrying"?”
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"Can I trust that we're working toward the same future?"
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"Can we meet and understand each other's needs to stay connected?"
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"Am I still a priority?"
Individual patterns go beyond the present moment.
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“Is it safe for someone to be disappointed with me?”
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“Conflict makes me feel unsafe, so I shut down, avoid, or try to make it go away.”
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“If I can anticipate what might go wrong, maybe I can keep things from falling apart.”
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“I know I can count on myself, and others can count on me. I just don’t feel safe depending on them.”